Where’s Bob? You invited him to the meeting right? I mean, how many times do we have to tell the guy we have a tight agenda and he must show up on time? Should we begin without him? Listen, if he thinks his forecast meeting is more important then that’s his prerogative. I’m just saying I’m ready to hit send on my Seamless order and I don’t care if he wants a side salad or soup of the day with his veggie burrito.

Where’s Bob? You invited him to the meeting right? I mean, how many times do we have to tell the guy we have a tight agenda and he must show up on time? Should we begin without him? Listen, if he thinks his forecast meeting is more important then that’s his prerogative. I’m just saying I’m ready to hit send on my Seamless order and I don’t care if he wants a side salad or soup of the day with his veggie burrito.

The “told you so moment” is just out there waiting to appear. The potential for passive-aggressive org dynamics is all too real. Ultimately, this is just a yucky place to be. So if you’re on the “winning” side of such a dialog then you have to bring people along every day for a while. You can’t remind people who was right, or that it is your decision and so on. If you’re on the “losing” side you need to support the team. You can’t remind people when little things go wrong (which they will) that you were right. Once a choice is made, the next step is all about the greater good. Nothing is harder for technologists than this because as technologists we believe there is a “right” answer and folks that don’t agree are simply “wrong”. Context is everything and remember you have to ship–as a team.